My wife and I are in our late 70s and don’t have any children. Who can help us in our old age? | Annalisa Barbieri

Getting older and losing your autonomy is even harder without family around. You need to consider both the practical and emotional issues involved My wife and I are in our late 70s, and have been married for more than 40 years.

We didn’t have kids and were rather traumatised after failed IVF. My wife is Asian and has no UK-based family. I do , but they are not close geographically, nor are they people who would be able to give any support if needed. Friends are of a similar age and so have their…