I love my life and my cup is full but I’m drowning in shame for things left undone. How can I balance it all? | Leading questions

You are not the only one, advice columnist Eleanor Gordon-Smith writes. It will help to ask whether you have a time problem or a bandwidth problem Leading questions I love my life in so many ways. I have a rewarding job, I’m making stellar progress towards a graduate degree, I have incredible friends and community, plus I’m even reconnecting with estranged family.

My cup is very full but I still feel grief and shame for how much falls to the wayside. I have missed countless doctors’ appointments. My vehicle’s license plates have been expired for almost a year. I often apologise to angry friends and acquaintances after they confront me for not seeing them in months . My significant other says she doesn’t see me enough. So do my parents. I clock out of work and shudder at the…