A good friend brings her dogs when she stays with me. I kind of dread it. What can I do? | Leading questions

People often forget social rules when dogs are involved, writes advice columnist Eleanor Gordon-Smith . But you’ll have to say something if you want things to change Leading questions A good friend of mine stays with me regularly when she comes into town. She brings her husband and two dogs that don’t get along with my dog. They’ve “used the bathroom” in our house before.

I try to be nice and help clean or pretend it doesn’t bother me so that they feel comfortable. But when she asks for a weekend to come back with everyone, I kind of dread it. I enjoy seeing her and she’s a great friend. I think our friendship would be better if she stayed somewhere else, but I would feel bad if she stayed in a hotel and I don’t think she’d visit as often. She cleans up after the dogs and whatnot, but I like my home to be my safe…